Two commitment phobes dating
A person who cannot decide to only date and sleep with you, or who struggles with the concept of deciding to progress from dating into a relationship and seeing how things go so that you can get to know each other on a deeper level, isn’t going to be capable of other commitment.
If a person cannot cut it on the basic comprehension in the early days of the relationship and/or they circumvent being and doing the stuff that will foster deeper intimacy and communication in the relationship, halt.
I can’t decide to emotionally check out or start shopping around.
– and some people show up willing to give it their best shot each day. No day is perfect but each day they show up and they try.
This is a good time to mention that commitment is not only a decision and showing up, but also the expressions of that commitment through action.
The fact that someone is in a relationship or married doesn’t mean that they are committed.
In choosing to show up, you are creating something between you and a partner – you’re building a relationship. Sometimes we’re too caught up in putting a roof on something that doesn’t even have a foundation and a structure to rest it upon. PS I recently guested on my local community radio station and the recording is available just in time for some weekend listening.
Healthy relationships give back, as in, you put in and you’re both rewarded.
This past Monday marked our two-year wedding anniversary – incidentally, after two years of being blanked, my father called and apologised but we’ll save that one for another day.