Tips on dating a single mom
Barbara Brooks expected her adult kids, Amy and Bryan (names have been changed), to be happy for her.After all, they were the ones who had fixed her up with Gerald, a fellow divorcé and a friend’s uncle, because they didn’t want her to be lonely.Sometimes there are psychological reasons for an adult child resisting a parent’s new love life.For instance, a young woman may be especially sensitive when her father forms a serious new relationship. She’s no longer a party girl, but a fun night out is still very welcome.
She’s incredibly patient, but doesn’t have a lot of tolerance for bad behavior. “But the next time I visited them, Pat was showing off her new emerald-cut sapphire ring.That thing cost more than a down payment on a house!like they’re entitled to them and their partner is cruelly withholding it.
Put simply, a needy person doesn’t feel good inside and then saddles the other person with the responsibility to make them feel better… whoops, “my battery died, sorry I didn’t call you back last night.” Nobody’s perfect. When you boil it all down, neediness is not some set of behaviors. When a person takes on the belief that another person is responsible for their happiness, their sense of well-being and their sense of self-esteem, then it’s guaranteed that they’re going to act needy as a result of that mindset.
I can tell you from a guy’s perspective that when a woman says things like: “Why didn’t you call? Those kinds of statements will immediately put a guy on the defensive rather than motivating him to change and he’ll probably withdraw emotionally as a result… I would say the core reason of this is that it attacks a guy’s sense of freedom and feeling of acknowledgment. Well, when a woman starts down this chain of “Why didn’t you…” it feels to a guy as if she isn’t noticing all of the other things he is doing for a relationship. It’s perfectly normal and healthy to want a relationship with all the good qualities: connection, chemistry, understanding, intimacy, attentiveness and on and on.