Dating somebody suffering fear of abandonment
Furthermore, if the person being cut off has trauma in their background, the psychological impacts can be devastating.
I’m not talking about distancing ourselves from those we casually date or asking for space after a breakup or simply choosing not to be friends with our exes. Especially that “without explanation” part, something that he is going to emphasize over and over again.
Most of us don’t blink when a friend says they’ve cut off an ex.
But if you’ve ever been cut off by someone you care deeply for, then you know how distinctly painful an experience it can be.
In 2004, Cyntoia Brown was arrested for the murder of a 43-year-old man. Film-maker Daniel Birman was granted unique access to Cyntoia from the week of her arrest, throughout her trial and over a period of six years.
His documentary explores the tragic events in her life that led up to the murder, and Cyntoia’s biological mother meets he daughter for the first time since giving her up for adoption 14 years earlier.
As they were ending things, Emma gave him the traditional softening-the-breakup line: “we can still be friends.” .
The writing’s a bit unclear as to whether he was TA’ing the class or not (which is potentially a tricky issue in and of itself) but long and short: they had a whirlwind affair of four months, after which she ended things, an ending that he insists he foresaw because of the vast differences in their ages.Emma’s last note included the phrase, “Apparently, what I want seems irrelevant to you.” She didn’t realize the irony that what I wanted had long been irrelevant to her.