Dating and courtship patterns in usa
Compromising godly principles to appease a prospective spouse will only hurt us.Being pushed to compromise values only shows that they are not willing to seek God first in your relationship.It is idolatry to put our own desires or the desires of a significant other before God and the guidance that he has given us for our lives.It is important to keep emotions in check so that desire for a romantic relationship does not become more important to than following God’s leading in your life.Courtship, as discussed in more detail subsequently, seeks to emulate the Godly models described in the Bible that were conducted by God's people up until the invention of dating.My basic premise is that regardless of how we about things, we should follow God's model, because it will be the most effective and fulfilling.
If we pursue behaviors or a relationship that we know would not be honoring to God than we have sinned and mismanaged our priorities.
I intend to expose the flaws I see in today's dating model, and at the same time point out how Biblical courtship addresses these flaws.
As Christians, our primary purpose in life is to seek and serve God, and fulfill our destiny in Him. We need to find out what God's plan for relationships is, and then follow it. Let's study what we are doing now against what God has described in His word, and draw up a new standard. Other terms, such as 'betrothal' or even 'biblical dating' could be used, although they would possibly be confusing.
The current model that we are using is ineffective, at best. Dating was invented in the early part of this century.
Prior to that time, marriage always involved much more input from the parents, and "trial relationships" leading up to marriage were not conducted at all.God desires what is in our best interest even though we may struggle to see how that might be true.