Courtship in dating
If we feel that we are pure as long as we don’t cross “the line” then we could assume any physical intimacy leading up to “that line” is fine . The end goal of purity is none other than to see the face of God.
"Blessed are the pure of heart, for they shall see God." (Matthew 5:8) So "how far can we go? (Who doesn't want to see God at the end of their life here on earth?
Sometimes this is not achievable, due to distance from home or perhaps strained relationships.
In that case a couple should seek out at least one mentoring couple who they trust.
Young people are bombarded by images of impure and sinful relationships.
The notion of chastity would seem to some to be one that is outdated.
There is something very gratifying in being identified as someone’s boyfriend or girlfriend. Yet that is a false identity, founded on a false sense of security and rooted in insecurity in your own worth as a person.
Your value as a person comes from your dignity as a child of God!
) In short, reserve your affection and guard physical intimacy so that you are not igniting passions that are intended to be reserved for marriage. It is human nature for us to strive harder to achieve a goal when we know someone will be checking up on our progress.
It is an exclusive relationship, in that one chooses to enter into courtship with only one person at a time.
If a couple discerns that marriage is not their calling, they end the courtship relationship.
Unfortunately the twentieth century phenomenon of dating has so entrenched our thinking that we often see dating as the norm. Dating was a practice that only came into play after the introduction of the automobile.
Until then, the cultural standard for young couples interested in marriage was courtship.How can a relationship that is called “love” be dictated and dominated by selfish motives? We must examine our understanding of love, as Christ modelled it for us, and live it out accordingly.